Gwyneth Paltrow has opened up on her marriage breakdown with Chris Martin and said even she thought the term “conscious uncoupling” was “full of itself” when she first heard it.
Writing for British Vogue’s September issue, Paltrow described how she knew, on her 38th birthday in the idyllic Tuscan countryside, that her marriage to the Coldplay frontman was over.
“My ex and I had always been friends. We laughed at the same things, shared a funny bones humour, impressions, utter silliness,” she wrote.
“We loved walking to and from Osteria Basilico through the park for pizza, especially on those British summer nights when the sun doesn’t ever seem to set. We loved road trips to the New Forest or to the seaside. But most of all, we loved our children. We were close, though we had never fully settled into being a couple. We just didn’t quite fit together. There was always a bit of unease and unrest. But man, did we love our children.”
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In a frank assessment of their relationship, she wrote that she felt deep inside they had already been on different paths, but did not want to experience the “failure” of a break-up.
“Between the day that I knew and the day we finally relented to the truth, we tried everything. We did not want to fail. We didn’t want to let anyone down. We desperately didn’t want to hurt our children. We didn’t want to lose our family,” she said.
Instead, the couple began to think of ways to protect their family while going through their separation and came to the term that would break the internet and redefine break up culture through a therapist.
“I had never heard of the phrase “conscious uncoupling”. Frankly, the term sounded a bit full of itself, painfully progressive and hard to swallow,” she said.
“It was an idea introduced to us by our therapist, the man who helped us architect our new future. I was intrigued, less by the phrase, but by the sentiment. Was there a world where we could break up and not lose everything? Could we be a family, even though we were not a couple? We decided to try.”
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In a statement released on Paltrow’s Goop website in March 2014, the couple announced they would part after a decade of marriage.
“It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate,” it said.
“We are, however, and always will be a family, and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been. We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and privacy to be respected at this difficult time. We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and co-parent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.”
Paltrow wrote of her nerves before posting the statement and the aftermath in which they were ridiculed for the new age approach with the inevitable attention quickly giving way to “ire and derision”.
“A strange combination of mockery and anger that I had never seen. I was already pretty tattered from what had been a tough year. Frankly, the intensity of the response saw me bury my head in the sand deeper than I ever had in my very public life,” she said.
However the actress and lifestyle brand founder has since said she is proud of the term that has entered the lexicon.
“Conscious uncoupling/separation/divorce, whatever you want to call it, has now permeated the break-up culture. Instead of people approaching me with, “Why did you say that?”, they now approach me with, “How do you do that?” she said.
Paltrow is now married to Brad Falchuk and has shared snaps of Falchuck and Martin sharing a breakfast table online.
“I know my ex-husband was meant to be the father of my children, and I know my current husband is meant to be the person I grow very old with. Conscious uncoupling lets us recognise those two different loves can coexist and nourish each other,” she wrote.
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2020-08-06 15:07:06Z
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